As followers of Christ, forgiveness isn’t just an optional act—it’s a necessity for spiritual freedom, growth, and deeper communion with God. We’re called to forgive not because it’s easy, but because it’s essential to our flourishing. When we release those who have wronged us, we, too, are set free.
Imagine carrying a heavy backpack filled with rocks, each one representing a hurt or a wrong committed against us. As we hold onto each offense, we’re weighed down, unable to move forward with ease or joy. Forgiveness is like unburdening ourselves, removing each rock one by one. The more we forgive, the lighter our load, until we can walk freely in the light of God’s love and grace.
Let’s begin by acknowledging that forgiveness often involves deep hurt. The wrongs committed against us can affect our very core—our relationships, work, and sense of self. In these moments, we may cry out like Job, “I have no peace, no quietness; I have no rest, but only turmoil” (Job 3:26). Or, like David, we might plead with God, “Answer me quickly, O Lord; my spirit faints with longing…” (Psalm 143:7). Forgiveness here is not just an action but a challenging journey—a path we cannot walk alone but only with God’s strength.
On this journey, two common hindrances are self-righteousness and self-pity. Self-righteousness tells us, “I would never do such a thing,” which makes it hard to empathize. Self-pity says, “No one has felt the pain I have,” convincing us that we don’t need to forgive. These mindsets cloud our hearts, hindering the healing and freedom God desires for us.
In Matthew 18:21-35, Jesus tells the parable of the unmerciful servant, a man forgiven a great debt but unwilling to forgive a smaller one owed to him. This story is a powerful reminder that, just as we have received grace, we are called to extend that same grace to others.
In the Lord’s Prayer, we ask, “Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us.” Jesus teaches us that forgiving others is essential for our own fellowship with God. If we hold grudges, it affects our relationship with Him. Remember, we all have areas in need of forgiveness, and God extends His mercy to us—let’s do the same for others.
What Forgiveness Is Not
Understanding what forgiveness does not mean can be just as important. Forgiveness does not mean:
– Excusing or justifying the wrong.
– Denying or forgetting the pain.
– Automatically reconciling without considering necessary boundaries.
Forgiveness is about releasing bitterness and entrusting justice to God. “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” says the Lord (Romans 12:19). Holding onto bitterness only imprisons us, while surrendering it brings freedom.
While forgiveness is crucial, addressing wrongdoing, especially if it causes harm, is equally important. Whether dealing with damaging behaviors or conflicts, approach each conversation with the NEED acrostic:
– Necessary: Is it essential to address?
– Encourage: Does it uplift?
– Edify: Will it build up?
– Dignify: Does it respect their dignity?
Forgiveness may be a challenging path, but it’s one that brings freedom, joy, and closer communion with God. Remember, as you release others, you are also released to walk freely in the love and grace of Christ.
| Consider this: Three To-Dos for Walking in Forgiveness 1. Release the Weight Spend time in prayer, asking God to help you release your hurts. Let go of each offense, one by one, like removing rocks from a backpack, allowing His peace to fill the void. 2. Reflect on God’s Forgiveness Meditate on the forgiveness you’ve received through Christ. Remember the parable of the unmerciful servant and let it inspire you to extend grace as freely as you’ve received it. 3. Stay Accountable in Community Share your journey of forgiveness with a trusted friend or spiritual mentor. Ask them to pray with you, hold you accountable, and encourage you to keep moving forward in faith. |
